I was thinking as I was walking Otto this morning: What a wonderful way to begin my days. Walking a dog who’s just happy to be outside and next to me.
Oh, man, is this not the most adorable neediness you’ve seen in a while?
And I can’t imagine my life without you, buddy!
Happy Valentine Day, everyone!
It’s always a little sad and bit annoying when someone talks to me (as this guy just did) about how corporal punishment made them better people and parents.
And then they spend the next half hour talking about all the substance abuse in their immediate family and how their kids and all their nieces and nephews have messed up home and school lives.
This guy who teaches 11-year-olds then tells me what kids need these days is more discipline.
And he was the most effed up person I’ve spoken with in a while.
But, hey, getting wailed on by his parents was the best thing for him.
The older I get, the more time I spend around well adjusted families, the more I am convinced that what kids need are parents they respect because those parents lead by example, and a home where they feel unconditionally loved and safe.
Beating kids does not make them feel safe.
Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate it. I am thankful in this time of discord for all of you and your wonderfully funny smart minds. It makes the future seem more about hope than dread.
It you take one, I hope your trip home to your family is full of more love than stress.
If you are on the outs with your family, I hope can find a sense of belonging somewhere through a chosen family.
If you are volunteering for the holiday, I hope it gives you a sense of peace in this time of rancor.
If you are working, I hope you find some comfort and laughter in your colleagues who are there with you.
And if you have nothing to do at all, I hope you can find the peace of mind that not having to be anywhere can bring.
I will be spending my time binge-watching Hulu and Amazon Video and cuddling with my little stinker of a dog.
This bit of parenting happiness comes from Ellen’s web site:
Dan Ewen’s 6-year-old son Gardner has never been all that interested in “boy clothes.”
Instead, he prefers to dress like his twin sister Moxie.
In the Ewen household, the freedom to be who you are is a top priority, and so to show support for Gardner, Dan tweeted a sweet note this week, and passed along an adorable picture to go with it.He tweets: “Sorry me letting my son wear a dress makes you uncomfortable. See I’m trying this crazy thing where I have his back no matter what, forever.”
What a beautiful way of putting it.
All kids should be so lucky to have a father who loves them this much.
It shouldn’t really be about anything more complicated than clothes. Some boys like girl clothes. And some girls like boy toys. And some boys like girl movies. And some girls like boy clothes — although girls have always been given a lot more leeway in this regard.
It’s OK for a girl to want to do boy things. It’s a step up. But boys who want to be girls? Absolutely not. That is failure as a boy.
I don’t see how forcing children to be afraid of such minor things teaches them anything useful other than to cave into groupthink on issues for which total strangers should have no say.
If it is freighted with social issues baggage that is society’s issue with which it really should have come to terms long ago in an allegedly educated populace.